“How old is the baby? Is this your only child? Oh, how old are the others? Wow! You really spaced them out.”
I really spaced them out?? There are circumstances that come into play. You can’t assume that getting pregnant and giving birth to a healthy baby is a simple decision for every family. There are health issues and unforeseen circumstances that can come into play. And guess what? Some people actually plan to have their children several years apart.
In that moment I always think back to the times when I was a young girl playing “MASH” and it was so simple to determine how many children you’d have, where you’d live, who you’d marry, blah blah blah.
I played a round today for old times sake. Let’s see – I will be an artist, my husband an entrepreneur. I’ll drive a Mini Cooper. We’ll live in a shack in LA with our pet bird. Not bad. Wait, I forgot to put the number of children on there. Does that mean ‘none’? I guess so. Or maybe I’ll play again lol.
But real life happens. I had decided what age I wanted to be when I had each child and how close in age I wanted them to be. But the Lord had other plans for my life.
And my life couldn’t be sweeter.
I think people don’t realize just how much judgement they’re passing in that short conversation. And I’m not usually up to making an educational moment out it. Everyone’s family dynamic is different. What works for you may not work for everyone else. Be open-minded enough to respect situations that may not be ideal to you.
Bottom line is, God’s plans for your life trump yours. Trust and enjoy your journey.